For Wives Twenty Golden Principles - Biwi ke liye bees usool

 

For Wives

Twenty Golden Principles

Biwi ke liye bees usool

PART-01

(01) Prepare Food with Remembrance and Thoughtfulness

The food prepared by women at home enters the bodies of family members and becomes their nourishment. If the food is cooked without considering cleanliness and with negligence, instead of light (noor), it will create darkness (zulmat) in the body. Righteous wives remember Allah with their tongues while cooking; this was also the habit of the female companions of the Prophet ﷺ. Some companions used to recite three verses while baking bread on the oven. Women should try this: if they feed children with ablution (wudu) and remembrance of Allah, the children’s obedience will increase; and if they serve food to their husbands with ablution and remembrance, love in the husband’s heart will grow.

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PART-02

(02) Develop the Habit of Completing Work on Time

Another important point is to develop the habit of completing every task on time. Do not postpone today’s work till tomorrow. When many tasks accumulate, none of them can be done properly. Nowadays, the problem is that women do not consider household work as worship but as a burden. Sweating and enduring hardship in household chores is like earning the reward of performing the night ablution (wudu) and praying Fajr. Therefore, a wife should accept household work happily and think that Allah will be pleased with her because of these tasks. A Hadith says that a righteous woman is the one whose heart is busy remembering Allah and whose hands are engaged in work.

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PART-03

(03) Keep the House Clean and Pure

Some women have a habit of laziness; everything is scattered and disorganized at home. Allah does not like this. A woman should keep the house clean and pure with the intention of pleasing Allah. Purity is half of faith. Take great care about cleanliness and avoid laziness completely. If the house is messy and untidy, it harms you; diseases arise, and insects like mosquitoes also increase, causing fever. Staying clean protects against illnesses, InshaAllah (God willing).

PART-04

(04) Do Not Spread Rumors or Half-Truths

Many women have the habit of telling their husbands incomplete stories and then mixing several lies to hide their own faults. This is a very bad habit and a dangerous sin. According to a Hadith, it is enough for a person to be considered a liar if they spread every heard story. Sometimes, a woman reveals the secrets of her husband’s family to others or tells her own family about her household matters. This is also a grave sin and a root cause of many troubles. It is important to avoid this behavior.

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PART-05

(05) Send Off Your Husband with Prayers and Welcome Him with a Smile

Whenever the husband is about to leave the house, always see him off with prayers, saying "Fi Amanillah" (in the protection of Allah). Righteous wives always send off their husbands and children with prayers and see them off at the door. When the husband returns, no matter how busy the wife is, she should welcome him with a smile. Doing this relieves the husband’s fatigue and ignites love in his heart.

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PART-06

(06) Wife Should Clean and Prepare Herself Before Husband’s Return

When the time for the husband’s return approaches, the wife should clean and prepare herself. Usually, wives neglect this; they beautify themselves like a bride only when going outside but remain untidy in front of their husbands. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) used to, upon returning from travel with his companions, stay outside Medina for a while and inform the city so that wives could prepare themselves for their husbands’ return.

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PART-07

(07) Visit Relatives with the Intention of Maintaining Family Ties

Whenever there is an occasion to visit relatives, such as a wedding or other events, visit them with the intention of maintaining family relations (Sila Rahmi). Allah loves maintaining family ties. Visit while observing the rules of modesty (parda).

PART-08

(08) Encourage Your Husband to Give Charity (Sadaqah)

Keep encouraging your husband to give charity because calamities are removed and provision is blessed through giving charity. With the husband's permission, you should also give charity yourself and teach the children the habit of giving charity. Allah protects from calamities and increases blessings through charity.

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PART-09

(09) Designate a Place in the Home for Prayer

Set aside a special place in the house for praying. If the house is large, dedicate one room for this purpose. Ensure it is kept clean and arranged with a prayer mat (musalla), prayer beads (tasbih), and the Quran. Encourage the habit of sitting and praying there.

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PART-10

(10) Develop the Habit of Speaking Concisely on the Phone

Women generally have the habit of talking for long durations on the phone. Only talk about what is necessary and relevant. This habit has many benefits: it saves time, protects from gossip, and prevents household conflicts, Insha’Allah.

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PART-11

(11) Develop the Habit of Noting Important Things

Many women rarely remember important matters they need to tell their husbands or forget important tasks the husband asked them to do. This often leads to arguments in the home. Do not rely solely on memory; write things down.

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PART-12

(12) Keep Necessary Items Organized and Accessible

Keep items that are urgently needed in a proper place at home so they can be found quickly when needed, such as medicine, keys, jewelry, etc. Sometimes, even these things can become a cause of disputes if not properly managed.

PART-13

(13) Do not do anything that causes you to fall in your husband’s eyes.

A wife should understand her husband’s temperament and keep the home environment good. Do not do anything that makes you lose respect in your husband’s sight. Live a truthful life with your husband; do not give him a reason for suspicion. Remember that a wife must spend her whole life with her husband — no one can take his place. Once one falls from that position, one cannot easily regain it. Hiding or enlarging faults is also a form of lying; with half the effort used to hide a fault, you can remove that fault.

PART-14

(14) Consult your husband regarding the children.

Consult your husband about the children’s education and upbringing. Provide children both religious and worldly education, but take special care of religious education. Do research about worldly education to determine which school is appropriate. Nowadays some schools teach rituals in the morning (e.g., prayer-like actions), and even Muslim children imitate this; from childhood their mindset is harmed. Take special care about this.

PART-15

(15) Do not delay in fulfilling your husband’s needs.

A wife should not procrastinate or be reluctant to fulfill her husband’s needs (desires); do not worry about small discomforts — this is a deed that brings reward. A wife’s refusal to fulfill her husband’s needs is a very dangerous wrongdoing, as it opens a path to sin for the husband.

There is a narration that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said if a wife is mounted and the husband calls her for his need, she should first fulfill his need. When a wife fulfills her husband’s need and then performs ghusl, with each drop of water her sins are forgiven. Among the signs before the Day of Judgment is that despite being healthy, wives will delay fulfilling their husband’s needs.

PART-16

(16) Comfort your husband in times of distress.

A wife should console her husband when she sees him troubled. This was the Sunnah of Hazrat Khadija (RA). When the first revelation came to the Prophet Muhammad (SAW), he was frightened, and Hazrat Khadija (RA) comforted and reassured him.

PART-17

(17) There is greatness in admitting mistakes and peace in silence.

When the husband points out a mistake of the wife, she should accept it gracefully. There is honor in this. Do not develop the habit of immediately replying harshly to everything the husband says, as harsh replies cause great damage to the home.

PART-18

(18) Express your heart’s sorrow only before Allah, the Almighty.

Instead of complaining to people or your husband, develop the habit of sharing your grief only with Allah. When the opportunity arises, make long du’as. Rather than telling your friends over the phone, tell Allah your heart’s pain.

PART-19

(19) Treat your husband’s relatives well.

Being good to your husband’s relatives is a moral obligation. Respect those whom your husband considers close. Overlook their mistakes. This act brings great reward and ends many conflicts.

PART-20

(20) Do not obey anyone in disobedience to Allah, the Almighty.

If obeying your husband or parents involves doing something against the commands of Allah, do not do it. Instead, strive so that family members also avoid disobeying Allah. Also try that your husband pledges allegiance to a righteous Shaikh, because the Shaikh’s advice can save the home from destruction. If the husband does not listen to others, at least he will listen to the Shaikh, and through the Shaikh’s advice he will fulfill his duties properly.

Roman urdu translation

PART-01*

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*⚃➠(01) KHANE KO ZIKR OR FIKR KE SATH BANAAYEN*

*⚃➠ Ghar me Aurte jo khana banati hain wo ghar ke afraad ke jismo me jata hai or jismo ki giza banta hai Agar khana banane me taharat ka khayaaL na kiya or gafLat ke sath pakaya to ye khana jismo me ja kar noor ke bajaye zuLmat paida karega Nek Biviya'n khana banate zuban se allah ka zikr karti hain, sahabiyaat ki bhi ye aadat thi, baz sahabiyaat to tannoor par Roti sekte sekte 3 pare padh liya karti thi Aurtein is ka tajurba kar ke dekh Lein ke bachcho ko ba wuzu zikr ke sath khiLayengi to bachcho me farmabardari ka jazba badh jaayega or shohar ko ba wuzu zikr ke sath khana pesh karengi to shohar ke diL me muhabbat me izafah hoga*

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*⚃➠(02) KAAM KO WAQT PAR SAMETNE KI AADAT DALEIN*

*⚃➠ Dusri Aham baat ye hai ke har kaam ko apne waqt par samet ne ki aadat dalein, aaj ka kaam kal par na daLein kaL kaL karte hue jab bahut kaam jama ho jate hein to ek bhi kaam ho nahi pata Aaj museebat ye hai ke ghar me Aurtein kaam ko ibadat samajh kar nahi museebat samajh kar karti hein, ghar ke kaam me pasina bahana mushaqqat uthana aisa hi hai jese isha ke wuzu se fajr padhne ka ajr pana Is Liye biwi ko chahye ke ghar ke kamo ko khushi se qabooL kare or ye soche ke in kamo ki wajah se Allah RabbuL izzat mujse razi hoga Ek hadis me hai ke nek aurat wo he jis ka diL Allah RabbuL izzat ki yaad me ho or us ke hath kamo me masruf ho*

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*⚃➠(03) GHAR KO SAAF SUTHRA OR PAAK RAKHEIN*

*⚃➠ Kuch Auraton ki Tabiyat me susti hoti hai ghar me saari cheezein pheLi padi Rehti hein, be'tarteeb Rakhi hoti hein, ye Allah RabbuL izzat ko na pasand hai Aurat is niyyat se ghar ko saaf suthra or paak rakhe ke Allah RabbuL izzat Razi honge paaki Aadha Imaan hai ghar me paaki or Napaaki ka bahut Zada khayaaL Rakhen isme Susti biLkuL na barte Ghar me sab Samaan be'tarteeb hoga Saaf suthra nahi hoga usme Aapka hi Apna Nuqsan hai bimaariyan peda hoti hain or janwar bhi peda ho jaate hain macchar waghaira jinke kaatne se bukhaar to saaf suthra rehne se bimaariyon se bhi hifazat hogi in sha Allah ta'ala*

       

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*⚃➠ (04) SUNI SUNAYI BAAT AAGE NA CHALAAYEN*

*⚃➠ Bahut si Aurto'n me ye alAadat hoti hai ke adhoori baat shohar ko pohcha deti hain phir apni ghaLati ko chhupane ke liye kayi jhoot us me miLati hain Ye bahut buri Aadat hai or khatarnaak gunaah hai hadees me hai ke Aadmi ke jhoote hone ke liye ye kafi hai ke har suni baat ko bayan kar de, kabhi Aurat apne shohar ke khandaan ke Raaz dusro ko, kabhi khud ke ghar waLo ko bata deti hai, ye bhi khatarnaak gunaah hai or bahut se fitno ki jad hai is se bachna bhi zaruri hai*

PART-05*

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*⚃➠ (05) SHOHAR KO DUAO'N KE SATH RUKHSAT KAREIN OR AANE PAR MUSKURA KAR ISTIQBAAL KAREIN*

*⚃➠ Jab bhi shohar ghar se jane Lage us ko hamesha duao'n  ke zarye wida kare, fi amaniLLah kahe, nek biwiya'n hamesha apne shoharo'n ko or bachcho ko duao ke sath Rukhsat karti hain darwaze tak ja kar wida karti hein, jab shohar Lote to chahe kitni hi masroof kyu na ho muskura kar shohar ka istiqbaaL kare, is tarah karne se shohar ki thakan utar jaayegi or shohar ke dil me muhabbat jagegi*

       

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*⚃➠ (06) SHOHAR KE AANE SE PEHLE BIWI APNE AAP KO SAAF SUTHRA KARLE*

*⚃➠ Jab shohar ke ghar Lotne ka waqt ho to biwi ko chahiye ke Apne aap ko saaf suthra kar Lein, Aam tor par biwiyan is me kotahi karti hein kahin bahar jana ho to duLhan ki tarah sanwar kar jati hein or shohar ke samne meLi kucheLi rehti hein Nabi e kareem Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallam ka mamooL ye tha ke jab Apne sahaba e kiraam ke sath safar se Lot'te to madina se bahar qayam farmate or madina me itteLa karwa dete take biwiyan apne shoharo ke liye apne aap ko tayyar kar lein*

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*⚃➠ (07) RISHTEDARO'N KE YAHA SILA RAHMI KI NIYYAT SE MILNE JAAYEIN*

*⚃➠ Jab bhi Rishtedaro'n ke yahan jane ka moqa aaye, shadi waghairah ya aise hi to siLa Rehmi ki niyyat se jaayein, Allah RabbuL ko siLa Rehmi bahut pasand hai Parde ka Lihaz Rakhte hue jaayein*

       

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*⚃➠ (08) SHOHAR KO SADQA KHAIRAAT KI TARGHEEB DETI RAHEIN*

*⚃➠ Shohar ko sadqah khairat karne ko kehti Rahein is liye ke sadqe se baLaayein taL jati hein, Rizq me barkat hoti he Shohar ki ijazat se khud bhi sadqa karein or bachcho ko bhi sadqe ki aadat daLein Sadqah karne se Allah RabbuL izzat baLao v haadsaat se bhi hifazat farmata hai*

PART-09*

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*⚃➠ (09) GHAR ME NAMAZ KE LIYE JAGAH MUQARRAR KAREIN*

*⚃➠ Ghar me namaz padhne ke Liye kisi jagah ko khas kar Lein, Agar ghar bada ho to ek kamra hi khas kar Lein, waha paki ka Ahtemam ho musaLLa ho, tasbih ho, quran ho, waha bethne ki aadat daLein*

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*⚃➠ (10) PHONE PAR MUKHTASAR BAAT KARNE KI AADAT DALEIN*

*⚃➠ Aurato'n ko Aam tor par phone par Lambi Lambi baat karne ki Aadat hoti hai, jo zaroorat ho bas wahi matLab ki baat karein, is ke bahut fayde hein, waqt bachega, gheebat waghairah se hifazat gharelu jhagdo se bhi hifazat rahegi in sha Allah*

        

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*⚃➠ (11) AHAM BATEIN NOTE KARNE KI AADAT DALEIN*

*⚃➠ Aurto me ye cheez bahut kam hoti hai kayi Aham batein jo shohar ko batani hoti hain wo moqe par yaad nahi aati kayi aham kaam jo shohar karne ko keh kar gaya wo bhool jati hain, is wajah se bhi ghar me jhagde shuru ho jate hein. Apni yaad dasht par bharosa na kare bLke Likh liya karen*

        

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*⚃➠ (12) ZAROORAT KI CHEEZO'N KO SAMBHAAL KAR RAKHEIN*

*⚃➠ Aisi cheezein jis ki hangami tor par zaroorat padti hai un ko ghar me munasib jagah par rakhein take zaroorat ke moqe par fori tor par miL jaaye, jese dawayi, chabi, jawelary wagairra. Kabhi shaitaan aisi cheezo ko bhi ghar me jhagde ka bahana bana Leta hai*

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*⚃➠ (13)  KOI AISA KAAM NA KARE JIS KI WAJAH SE SHOHAR KI NAZRO SE GIR JAAYEN*

*⚃➠  Biwi ko chahiye ke apne shohar ke Mijaz ko pehchan kar ghar ke mahoL ko achhchha Rakhe, koi bhi aisa kaam na kare ke jis ki wajah se shohar ki nazro se gir jaaye, shohar ke sath Sacchayi wali zindagi guzare, shohar ko shak ka moqa na de, or yaad rakhe ke  biwi ko poori zindagi shohar ke sath guzarni hai, shohar ka maqam or koi nahi Le sakta  gir kar insaan dubara wahi maqam hasiL nahi kar sakta  jitni mehnat kisi khaami ko chupane ke liye karni padti hai us se Aadhi mehnat se wo khaami door kar sakte hein baat ko badaLna ya chupana bhi jhoot hi hai*

14) BACHCHO KE BARE ME SHOHAR SE MASHWARA KARTI RAHEIN*

*⚃➠ Bachcho ki taLeem v tarbiyat ke bare me shohar se mashwara kare, bachcho ko deeni or dunyavi dono tarah ki taLeem diLaayen, aLbatta deeni taLeem ka khoob Ahtimam kare dunyavi taLeem ke bare me tahqeeq kar Lewe ke kis school ki taLeem munasib hai Aaj kaL Schoolo me dekha hai Subah ke waqt bacche pooja karte hain haath jodte hain or sabhi musaLman bacche bhi aisa karte hain bachpan hi se unki zehniyat ko kharaab kar diya jata hai iska khaas khayaaL Rakhen*

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*⚃➠ (15) SHOHAR KI ZAROORAT POORI KARNE ME TAAL MATOL NA KARE*

*⚃➠ Biwi ko chahiye ke shohar ki zaroorat [khwahish] poori karne me taL matoL se kam na Le, choti moti takleef ka khayaaL na kare baLke ye ajar ka kaam hai Biwi ka Apne shohar ki zaroorat ko poora na karna bahut khatarnaak jurm hai, is se shohar ke Liye gunah ka Rasta khuL jata hai*

*⚃➠ Ek Riwayat me hai ke nabi Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallam ne farmaya ke agar biwi sawari par sawar ho chuki ho or shohar use apni zarurat ke Liye bulaye to biwi ko chahiye ke pehle shohar ki zarurat puri kare jab biwi shohar ki zarurat poori kar ke gusal karti hai to pani ke har qatre ke badLe us ke gunah muaf kar diye jate hein qurbe qayamat ki ALaamato me se ye hai ke biwi sehatmand hone ke ba wajood shohar ki zaroorat ko pura karne ke tal matol karegi*

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*⚃➠ (16) SHOHAR KO PARESHANI KE WAQT TASALLI DEIN*

*⚃➠ Biwi ko chahiye ke jab shohar ko pareshan dekhe to tasaLLi de, ye hazrat khadija radiyallahu anha ki sunnat hai jab nabi e kareem Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallam par wahi ki ibtida hui to aap dar gaye the, Hazrat khadija radiyallahu anha ne aap ko tasaLLi de kar sambhaLa tha*

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*⚃➠ (17) GALATI MAN LENE ME AZMAT HAI OR KHAMOSHI ME AAFIYAT HAI*

*⚃➠  Jab shohar Biwi ko batLaaye ke ye tumhari ghaLati hai to us ko tasLeem kar Lena chahiye, isi me izzat hoti hai shohar ne koi baat kar di to fauran jawab dene ki Aadat na daLein, shohar ko har baat ka sakht jawab dena gharo ko Ujadne ka bahut bada sabab hai*

 

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*⚃➠ (18) APNE DIL KA GHAM SIRF ALLAH RABBUL IZZAT  KE SAMNE BAYAN KAREIN*

*⚃➠ Shikve shikayatein Logo ke samne ya shohar ke samne bayan karne ke bajaye Allah RabbuL izzat ke samne kehne ki Aadat daLein.  Matlab ye hai jab moqa miLe Lambi dua karein, dil ka gham phone par saheLiyo ko batane ki bajaaye Allah RabbuL izzat ko bataye*

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*⚃➠ (19) SHOHAR KE RISHTEDARO KE SATH ACCHA SULOOK KAREIN*

*⚃➠ Shohar ke Rishtedaro'n se Accha suLook karna AkhLaqi fariza hai shohar jin ko Apna qaribi samajhta hai un ki izzat karein, un ki ghalatiyo ko nazar andaaz karein, ye baat bahut ajro sawab ka ba'is hai or sare jhagdo ko khatam karne wali hai*

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*⚃➠ (20) ALLAH RABBUL IZZAT   KI NA FARMANI ME KISI KI ITAA'AT NA KAREIN*

*⚃➠ Koi Aisa kaam jis ke karne me shohar ki ya maa baap ki to itaa'at ho Rahi ho Lekin wo kaam shari'at ke khilaf ho, us me Allah RabbuL izzat ki na farmani ho to wo kaam hargiz na karein, baLke poori koshish karein ke ghar ke afraad bhi Allah RabbuL izzat ki na farmani se bach jaayein, or ye bhi koshish karein ke shohar kisi shaikh ke hath par bay'at ho jaaye, kiyun ke shaikh ki naseehat se ghar Ujadne se bach sakta hai shohar kisi ki na sune to kam se kam shaikh ki to sunega, shaikh ki naseehat se huqooq ki Adayegi ka paband banega*

  *╟❥  ALHAMDULLAH MUKAMMAL*